Before I begin you have to know a bit about my background for this to make sense. I wasn't raised very religious. As a child my family practiced the Mormon faith in an on-again, off-again process. Once I left home, I left that faith as it was a social outlet for me, not a conviction of belief. I, then, embraced the world and it's values. It was a vacant and hollow time of my life where I sought worldly things and activities to fill the hole that only God could fill. I married into a Presbyterian family and had my first child. We attended services three times a year, Christmas, Easter, and the day of the bagpipes. (I liked how they sounded in the back of the hall playing Amazing Grace). On my first child's birthday his grandmother (my mother-in-law) died un-expectantly. It was a real slap to my soul, a realization that life is short and death happens to those I love. I started attending weekly and became very active in the church. It never changed my husband's attendance nor his lifestyle. After a few years, I became very interested in the Catholic church and started RCIA. My marriage was not going well and he became very upset about it. As I was trying to save my marriage, I stopped going to RCIA. I went back to attending his parent's church. A few years and another child later, we ended up divorced. The desire to become a Catholic had never went away. I began RCIA, again.
(LOVE) During RCIA, I learned about confession what it really meant. Then I was taught the correct interpretation of 2 Corinthians 5:18 But all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Christ; and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation. As the teachings progressed and Lent approached that first year, I was so nervous about going to confession but so excited about confessing and releasing my past. Finally hear those words that I had been forgiven. The idea of renewing the cleanliness of my baptism was so intriguing as I had been baptized too young to really understand my role in my sin and Jesus's role in my cleansing. As I reviewed my past, I created a list of my sins, some very egregious. I was comforted in the fact that I wasn't Catholic before and that the priest has probably heard so many like mine, it wouldn't be a big deal.
The day finally came, I was so nervous. I walked in with my list of sins and my cheat sheet of prayers. I was ready! .... Well, except for the fact I was bawling the whole time. Praise God for prepared priests who had a box of tissues in the confessional. The confession went about as I expected until the absolution. I cannot describe the feeling as the words of absolution left the priest's mouth. The scripture from John 20:23 "Whose sins you shall forgive, they are forgiven them; and whose sins you shall retain, they are retained." ; took on a whole new meaning. It was like being in a cave with no light and suddenly it was filled with pure light. A light so bright that it purified what it touched down to the molecular level. I understood then why we needed to confess our sins to another and why it needed to be a person consecrated to be the acting hands of Jesus Christ. It was beyond anything I expected, yet it was everything I thought it would be. I LOVED the sacrament of confession, who wouldn't?! Why wasn't the churches full of lines of people going to confession? I just didn't get it.
(HATE) Fifteen years later, I now understand why you don't see lines of people waiting to enter the confessional. It isn't the act of confession that I hate, NO, I still LOVE confession. It is the fact that I am embarrassed to enter the confessional,... yet again for the same sin that I cannot quite conquer. Or for a sin that I haven't committed since I converted 15 years ago but all of a sudden I did it again. Ugh! Or problem with my husband or with intimacy... I mean this 'man' is celibate, how embarrassing! How about child raising and all the different things I have done wrong there. Sigh, it never seems to end.
The devil knows my Achilles tendon in this area. He knows how to whisper in my ear;
- about how stupid I am, how this 'man' will hear my sins and think less of me;
- how I want to show that I am a great catholic mother and wife but the priest will see I am not.
- Or the devil's other attack, "Why bother?... God/Jesus knows your sins, He knows you have asked forgiveness, that is enough."
- Or yet another facet, the priests are too busy. They really don't think confession is that important or there would be more convenient times and places offered.
- You are too busy, it isn't so important that you should change your entire routine to make that inconvenient time to go to confession.
- Never mind the cost of the fuel to drive to the church.
- Better yet, the logical arguments that the devil gives me; I don't really need this sacrament, as he grasps at scripture or doctrine that 'proves' I don't need to go to confession.
(LOVE) Finally overcoming it all, swallowing my pride and going to confession. There are no words. Love says it all!
I wonder why I always seem to go through this same cycle. Maybe someday, I will advance spiritually beyond this point, maybe not. It is was it is, it is where I am at now. I will embrace this path, knowing that I will end up in Christ's arms, in His forgiveness with the gift of His peace.
Thank you, Lord for the sacrament of confession. Thank you Lord for my littleness, so that I may learn that I am a weak person who can only become strong by Your grace. And that I can only receive Your grace by remaining in my weakness and embracing true humility. Your love comes full circle.